Consider living through the Great Depression, World War II, the Civil Rights Movement, and finally witnessing the election of the first African-American president of the United States. Back in 2010, President Obama even sent them a signed commendation!
Zelmyra and Herbert Fisher set a Guinness World Record for the longest marriage. They had been wed since May 13, 1924. They broke the record for the longest marriage in 2008, at 84 years.
In today’s environment, this appears to be an impossible task. Most marriages fail before they even begin! According to researchers, 41% of all first marriages end in divorce, 60% of second marriages end in divorce, and 73% of third marriages end in divorce. So, how did this couple stay together for so long that they smashed the world record?! What’s their trick?!
They were talked about their secrets for surviving difficult times and dealing with marital crises. Here are the straightforward responses from the couple that genuinely endured till “death did them apart”:
- How did you come to understand you could spend the rest of your lives together? Were you terrified?
Our bond grew stronger and more secure with each passing day. Divorce was NEVER an option, let alone a thought.
- How did you realize your husband or wife was the one?
Before we married, we grew up together and were close friends. A buddy is for life, but our marriage was for eternity.
- Is there anything you would change about your marriage after 80 years?
We wouldn’t change anything. Our marriage has no secrets; we simply did what was necessary for each other and our family. (I suppose that’s where the secret is…)
- What advise would you provide to someone who is struggling to believe that Mr. Right is indeed out there for them?
Zelmyra: My house was right around the corner! He’s never too far away, so keep the faith – you’ll know for sure when you meet him.
- What is the best marriage advise you’ve ever received?
Respect, support, and communication are essential. Be loyal, honest, and truthful. Love each other with your entire heart.
6. What are the most crucial characteristics of a good spouse?
Zelmyra is a dedicated worker who also happens to be an excellent provider. The 1920s were difficult, but Herbert desired and provided for the best for us. I married a wonderful man!
7. What is your favorite Valentine’s Day memory?
Zelmyra: Every day, I prepare dinner. Herbert surprised me by leaving work early and cooking dinner for me! He is a VERY GOOD COOK!
Herbert: I told her I was going to make dinner for her and she could unwind. The expression on her face and the clean plate changed my day! (You’ve just made my day!)
- You married at a young age; how did you both manage to grow as individuals while being a couple?
Everyone who plants a seed and harvests the crop joins in the celebration. We are individuals, but we achieve more when we work together.
- What is your most cherished memory from your 85-year marriage?
Our legacy includes five children, ten grandchildren, nine great-grandchildren, and one great-great-grandchild.
- Does communication become simpler over time? How do you maintain your patience?
We talk more now that the kids are older. We may spend time together on the porch or in our rocking chairs.
- How did you deal with being physically separated for extended periods of time?
Herbert: We were separated for two months when Z was in the hospital with our fifth child. It was the most trying period of my life. I would have gone insane if Zelmyra’s mother hadn’t helped me with the house and the other kids.
- What is the most crucial thing to remember at the end of a poor relationship day?
Remember that marriage is not a game; never keep score. God has placed the two of you on the same team to win.
13. Is fighting necessary?
Never, ever physically! Accept that it is okay to differ and fight for what is truly important. Learn to bend rather than break!
- What is one thing you have in common that transcends all others?
Both of us are Christians who believe in God. Marriage is a vow to the Lord. Every day, we pray with and for one another.
Zelmyra and Herbert had a beautiful marriage, and we are fortunate to have their guidance. After 87 years, they were clearly as in love as the day they married.
Herbert died in 2011 at the age of 105, while Zelmyra died a few years after at the age of 105. The pair had been married for 87 years when Herbert died.
